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A plan for diversity and inclusion

Posted: September 15th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters

According to the Human Rights Campaign (HRC)’s Municipal Equality Index:

“As of January 28, 2017, at least 225 cities and counties prohibit employment discrimination on the basis of gender identity in employment ordinances that governed all public and private employers in those jurisdictions. This list does not include those cities and counties that prohibit discrimination on the basis of gender identity for city and county employees — such policies do not affect private employers in those jurisdictions.”

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Whose life are you living?

Posted: September 15th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy

The longer I work as a psychotherapist, the more amazed I am at how we all — myself included — keep doing things that make us unhappy. Call it a pattern or a habit, whatever you wish; we keep repeating behaviors and thoughts that we don’t want to repeat, but feel powerless to change.

Why do we do this? Why can’t we easily break free and change our lives by doing new things, thinking new thoughts and behaving in new ways?

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Remembering Mel

Posted: September 1st, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Out of the Archives | No Comments

By Walter Meyer | Out of the Archives

I told many people, including Mel Merrill himself, that I wanted to download Mel’s brain. He knew so much about so much. He was a nuclear engineer in his working life, but he also knew about music, food, and literature, in addition to science. For many of us in San Diego’s LGBTQ community, he was a walking archive.

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The new PTSD: President Trump Stress Disorder

Posted: September 1st, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy

Traditionally, PTSD has stood for “post traumatic stress disorder.” It describes how we may have to tough it out to get through something traumatic (war, rape, bodily harm) and then, when it’s over, we typically “collapse” into a big, ole mess. In this after-the-trauma-is-over phase, we let ourselves feel all the feelings that we held inside to just get through the awful experience(s) and survive.

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LGBTBE certified … now what?

Posted: September 1st, 2017 | #LGBTB2B, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Michelle Burkart | #LGBTB2B

I have been working with the NGLCC on the LGBTBE certification program since 2005. It seems that no matter how far we have progressed in expanding opportunities for our LGBT business owners, I still hear the frustration in their voices when they say, “Okay, I got certified, so what now?!”

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LGBTQ rights/protections under California law

Posted: August 18th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters

According to Wikipedia, “Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) rights in the United States are considered among some of the most advanced in the world; however, they vary on a jurisdiction-by jurisdiction basis … However, the United States has no federal law outlawing discrimination nationwide, leaving residents in some states without protection from discrimination, other than from federal executive orders which have a more limited scope than from protections through federal legislation.”

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It’s our 10th anniversary

Posted: August 18th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, South Bay Alliance | No Comments

By Dae Elliott | South Bay Alliance

It doesn’t seem like that long to me.

OK, I know, I’m old and nothing seems like that long to me, but think about it. Starting as a small group in response to our politicians and other local leaders suggesting that there was no LGBTQ in south San Diego County and the issue of marriage equality during the initial California Proposition 22 was only a “Hillcrest” thing.

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Fabulous Hillcrest

Posted: August 4th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 1 Comment

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny The day after San Diego Pride, dozens of volunteers took to the streets of Hillcrest to assist the Hillcrest Town Council in its annual Post-Pride Neighborhood Cleanup. While several of the volunteers were physically Hillcrest residents, a great many of them did not live in the neighborhood. So why would so many people come out to lend a hand in a neighborhood they don’t live in?

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Certification buzzwords 

Posted: August 4th, 2017 | #LGBTB2B, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Michelle Burkart | #LGBTB2B  The world of supplier diversity procurement, or government contracting, is full of acronyms (i.e. abbreviations for titles, organizations, certifications) that I call “certification buzzwords.” In our first column, we provided a listing of the “organizational buzzwords” that named the agency players. Since every industry has its own “buzz speak,” I wanted to provide some of the ones you will hear as you begin to certify your business as LGBTBE.

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Prestige, power and possessions

Posted: August 4th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy The above title came from a TED Talk I watched recently. In it, the speaker — a contented, wise elder — said that only young people expect that prestige, power and possessions will bring them happiness, and that spending a lifetime searching for them is to invite unhappiness and disappointment.

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Transforming UC San Diego, inside and out

By Ian Morton | Profiles in Advocacy

The specific issue was whether or not a business should have to make a wedding cake for a same-sex ceremony. The broader ramifications were whether a privately owned business could deny services based on the patron’s perceived sexuality or gender identity.

As a former pharmacy technician, I remember wondering what would happen if a small town’s local pharmacy or private medical practice were suddenly allowed to deny services or medications based on these factors, and how horrifying that would be for LGBTQ individuals.

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Identifying affirmative senior communities

Posted: July 21st, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters There are various local, state and national laws, statutes and guidelines across these United States of America specific to senior housing and care. The challenge is monitoring and achieving strict adherence to them. Identifying LGBTQ affirming and supportive senior housing, services, programs and care is easy to identify in word but far more onerous to identify in practice.

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How to say goodbye

Posted: July 21st, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy I just saw the documentary “Restless Creature” at the Digital Gym in North Park. In the film, New York City Ballet star Wendy Whelan talks about the challenges of ending her 30-plus year career as a prima ballerina. At the age of 47, Ms. Whelan’s body told her that it was time to say goodbye to her ballet career. Ms. Whelan is sad, afraid, and excited as she […]

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