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The month of love

Posted: February 5th, 2016 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 1 Comment

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny January is my least favorite month. It’s dark and cold, and the festive lights and cheer that hide the dark and cold in December mostly go away. Then of course there’s the pressure to start something new or change habits in the form of New Year’s resolutions, which in most cases, get pushed back with excuses as each day passes in January.

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To be ‘young and gay’

Posted: January 8th, 2016 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 1 Comment

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny I was thinking the other day about what it felt like to be young and gay. While I know at 35 years old, I’m still “young,” I’m certainly not 18 years old anymore. There was an innocence, excitement and curiosity that just can’t be matched.

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Mixing the holidays with community

Posted: November 27th, 2015 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Benny Cartwright | Back out with Benny I was really sick with a stomach infection (I’ll spare you the dirty details) at the end of October and first couple weeks of this month. While I’ve been lucky to have relatively good health — even a more severe illness like this one didn’t have me completely knocked down — I did find myself taking it much easier, staying in a lot more, and missing quite a […]

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‘We are a family’

Posted: October 16th, 2015 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 2 Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny A question I’m frequently asked when I speak on various panels, or answer people’s interview questions is “What do you like best about being part of the LGBT community?” I’ve never once had to think hard about this question, because the answer really is simple: We are a family and despite our many differences (many of those differences are what make this family so beautiful), we are there […]

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Prepping for #AIDSWalkSD

Posted: September 18th, 2015 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Benny Cartwright | Back Out With Benny I hate going to the gym. I find it boring, somewhat intimidating, and I’ve always found it slightly odd that we as humans will go into a building to move our bodies without really moving anywhere. And of course, there is the awkwardness of “gay gyms” which are filled with a mix of cruising, overly dressed guys, and people trying to show off.

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#TalkingSex

Posted: August 21st, 2015 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 2 Comments

By Benny Cartwright | Back out with Benny I talk about sex. A lot. Much of that is because of my job at the San Diego LGBT Community Center, working with our #BeTheGeneration [to end new transmissions of HIV] campaign.

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Sunday Fundays and more

Posted: May 15th, 2015 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 1 Comment

By Benny Cartwright | Back Out With Benny Around Hillcrest, my favorite day of the week is Sunday (known by many as “Sunday Funday”). In the afternoon, a lot of people are out and about enjoying the many restaurants and bars in the area without the expectations of a Friday or Saturday night out. It’s just a fun, casual time to socialize, meet up with friends, and enjoy an afternoon out.

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Let’s end HIV in our lifetimes

Posted: March 20th, 2015 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 2 Comments

Launch of the new ‘Back Out With Benny’ monthly column Benny Cartwright | Contributor The first column I ever wrote for an LGBT newspaper was published on June 29, 2005 — nearly a decade ago. It was called “Out with Benny” and published in the now defunct San Diego Update newspaper, which had been one of the San Diego LGBT community’s leading LGBT news outlets from 1979 until its closure in 2006.

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