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Posted: May 12th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 2 Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny One month from today will mark one year since the horrific Pulse Nightclub massacre in Orlando, Florida. While the shooting was absolutely devastating, it proved once again that our community is great at rallying together in times of need. Within 24 hours of the shooting, gatherings popped up across the country for community members to be there for each other and help one another process what had just […]

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Realizing your gifts

Posted: May 12th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy Recently, I went to a big, fancy dinner at a friend’s house. There were about 18 people there, and as far as I know, I was the only LGBT person at the table. I was talking with this really interesting straight woman and the topic turned to being gay (don’t ask me how). She looked me in the eye and asked me, “What is unique about being gay? What […]

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ArtZine

By Morgan M. Hurley | Editor

ArtZine is a new column that will share the work, places and lives of the artists within the local arts community of San Diego. I will try to make it as all-inclusive and feature not only artists of all mediums but also galleries, art spaces, art classes and at times include photography, music, theater or even architecture.

Alternative topics may include murals, tagging, outdoor art, interviews, etc. It may not run every issue but it is my wish to bring more attention to our local arts community, with a focus on LGBT artists of all kinds.

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No always means no

Posted: April 28th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny A few weeks ago, I was out at a bar on a Sunday afternoon with friends and we were discussing some thoughts about this planned column. In the middle of the conversation, a man came up to us to say hello and during that interaction, he noticed that one of my friends was wearing a snap button-down shirt. The person who approached us thought it would be “fun” […]

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Spring into action

Posted: April 28th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Profiles in Advocacy | No Comments

By Ian Morton | Profiles in Advocacy Just yesterday, I got to go on my annual Dining Out For Life “date” with the inimitable Elaine Graybill, an event that always reminds me that it isn’t just what’s in our pockets that can help nonprofits move forward, but also what is in our hearts. The “ambassadors” at each participating DOFL business have an opportunity to really elevate the event and make patrons feel great about participating.

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North Park senior housing applications

Posted: April 14th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Senior Matters | 1 Comment

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters The focus of this article is information regarding the application process and instructions for those interested in applying, qualifying and living in one of the 76 apartments currently under construction in the first LGBT-affirming senior housing project in North Park. But first, it is important to know a little about how this project came about, because more are needed and it is up to the community to advocate for […]

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Old on the outside

Posted: April 14th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy Recently, a client told me: “I feel old on the outside, but so young on the inside. Why doesn’t anyone see this or understand? I am just learning (in my mid-60s) how to enjoy myself and not worry about what other people think of me. I’m finally learning how to have fun. “That is my inner experience. My outer experience is that I am treated like an unattractive, uninteresting […]

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Transformations at The Center

Posted: March 31st, 2017 | Columns, Features, News, Profiles in Advocacy, Top Story | 1 Comment

By Ian Morton | Profiles in Advocacy

For some fortunate cities and regions, there exists in the nexus of the LGBTQ community a hub or center where members can meet, celebrate, mourn and receive services.

San Diego is one such city and the past years have shown impressive and responsive programming from the San Diego LGBT Community Center (The Center).

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Pride season is around the corner

Posted: March 31st, 2017 | Columns, Featured, South Bay Alliance | No Comments

By Dae Elliott | South Bay Alliance Pride season is almost upon us again! In this time, where many are worried about what may come next and anxious that all of our forward motion toward LGBTQ equality may be lost, it is important to persevere. South Bay Alliance (SBA) is doing just that and as always, we are keeping busy. The South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival will be held Saturday, Sept. 9, at Bayside […]

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Squeeze the toothpaste (just a little)

Posted: March 31st, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

Dear Michael: I am writing to you because I want to get some therapy, but I’m afraid to. I am a middle-aged lesbian with a great girlfriend who loves me and tells me so on a regular basis. I have a job I like (most of the time, anyway) and a solid circle of friends. What’s my problem? I have so much baggage from my past that I think if I ever started to address […]

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2-1-1 — a San Diego resource

Posted: March 17th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Interviews, Senior Matters | 2 Comments

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters There is an invaluable nonprofit resource and information hub here in San Diego, that employs 72 call-takers who connect people to community, health and disaster services through a free, 24/7 stigma-free confidential phone service and a searchable online database. That resource is 2-1-1 San Diego. 2-1-1 is well known to service providing organizations but not to the same degree by all San Diegans.

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My peace does not lie in the world

Posted: March 17th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy How do you find peace of mind? With so many difficult people and situations in our lives, how do we not just lose it over and over again? After pursuing peace through many means over the past several decades, I have learned some things that have become practical tools for me. I’d like to share some of them here with you.

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