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San Diego a destination for all

Posted: January 6th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright

If you are on Facebook, you may have noticed the “Year in Review” feature that users were able to access. The social media platform’s algorithms created a cute little video of your top photos of the year and had some facts about your Facebook usage over the year.

In 2016, I added 299 new friends, reacted to 64,607 posts (be it likes, hearts, wows, sads, or angries) and checked in to 906 places.

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Assessing senior needs

Posted: January 6th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly

This is the first of a three-part series about assessing and addressing the needs of seniors.

Part one categorizes the most basic concerns of all adults and provides a list of the “needs categories,” which include income and assets, expenses, housing, health and healthcare, geographic location and support systems.

But first, what is the “aging crisis” we are hearing more about?

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A numb new year?

Posted: December 23rd, 2016 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

Life Beyond Therapy | Michael Kimmel Why do we numb ourselves? What is it we don’t want to feel? Is it so bad to “take the edge off”? Of course not, but how do you get there? Do you need something external (drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping) to make you feel better, or is there a way to get there on your own?

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All I want for Christmas is the perfect relationship

Posted: December 9th, 2016 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy As Christmas nears, many of my single clients want Santa to bring them the “perfect relationship” and leave it under the tree (nicely wrapped, of course). As a psychotherapist, I am happy to play cupid, but I insist on being a cupid based in reality. In this column, I’ll include questions you can ask yourself to increase the likelihood of finding that perfect woman/man under your Christmas tree.

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The donkey and the well

Posted: December 9th, 2016 | Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters Senior Matters is a column of reality, hope, history — and information and stories that are of curiosity, interest and/or assistance to readers of all ages — as perceived, seen and experienced by me, a youth who lived to become a senior.

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In defense of flaking

Posted: December 9th, 2016 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny I had an interesting conversation with a man at a bar recently. After sitting next to each other for about 10 months, we struck up a conversation and the topic of “flaking” came up. “Flakes,” for those who don’t know, are those who tend to say they’ll show up somewhere or do something, but then bail out, usually with no notice, reason, or phone call.

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Reverse mortgages: a retirement safety net

Posted: November 25th, 2016 | Columns, Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters Baby boomers, those born between 1946-1964, collided with the great recession of the late 2000s. Millions saw their retirement investments and savings greatly and suddenly diminished. For many, the bulk of those assets is the equity they have in their homes, for which values fell dramatically. In short, they became the victims of unforeseen circumstances just as they were retiring and the social safety nets designed to supplement responsible […]

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Feeling Safe

Posted: November 15th, 2016 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy This is not the column I expected to write this week. I did not expect to awaken with dread the morning after the recent election. I didn’t want to get out of bed. I didn’t want to face a world where Donald Trump was the president-elect. I was scared of what would happen. I didn’t feel safe.

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Calling fear by its name

Posted: November 11th, 2016 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy A key ingredient of a happy life is how you handle fear. Fear is inevitable — it’s a part of life — so what are we going to do with our fear? Most of us are neither encouraged to identify our fears nor are we encouraged to ask for help in working with them.

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Be kind to each other

Posted: November 11th, 2016 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny It’s really hard to write a column on Election Day, as the course of our nation will change drastically depending on its results. While this column will be published a few days after we know who our next president will be, at the time of this writing, I have no idea. So I’m not going to write anything about that. This isn’t typically a political column anyway.

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Keeping the torch lit for LGBT seniors

Posted: October 28th, 2016 | Columns, Profiles in Advocacy, Top Story | No Comments

By Ian Morton | Profiles in Advocacy

It is turning out to be quite a year for community advocate, William “Bill” Kelly, both in impact and recognition.

Kelly will be inducted at the upcoming Benjamin F. Dillingham and Bridget Wilson LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor ceremony; he’ll soon be featured in a KPBS documentary about San Diego seniors; and he has been chosen to receive the Richard Geyser Community Leadership Award at the 2017 Aston Brooks Awards Gala.

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Events far and near

Posted: October 28th, 2016 | Columns, Featured, Out of the Archives | No Comments

By Archives Staff | Out of the Archives While our mission is to preserve local LGBT history, sometimes we get to “play on the big stage.” We were recently honored to fulfill a request from our friends Ellen Holzman and Meredith Vezina of TransNarratives to provide a tour and meeting space to a group of transgender activists from India. The lively discussion was video recorded so others can learn from the conversation. You can access it […]

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