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Dipping into our collections

Posted: February 3rd, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Out of the Archives | No Comments

By Lambda Archives Staff | Out of the Archives In a change from our usual reporting on events at Lambda Archives, we are going to mix things up to highlight some of our collections this time. We’ve chosen to highlight a collection that was processed very recently by a volunteer, Caro Vera, who also provided this report on the collection. The Archives is grateful for volunteers including Caro, who make all of what we do possible.

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How to forgive

Posted: February 3rd, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy Just in time for Valentine’s Day, that day when many of us remember the men and women who hurt us, broke our hearts or “done us wrong,” I offer you some ideas on how to forgive those who have hurt you. I was inspired to write this after reading Colin Tipping’s terrific book, “Radical Forgiveness.” I’d like to share with you my version of forgiveness, which although is inspired […]

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What love can do

Posted: January 20th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Profiles in Advocacy | No Comments

By Ian Morton | Profiles in Advocacy With the new year upon us, we set new goals and hopefully some of those goals include ways to strengthen advocacy in the coming year. The San Diego Foundation building, the Malin Burnham Center for Civic Engagement, houses many of the city’s nonprofit foundations and projects — including the foundation at which I work, San Diego Human Dignity Foundation — and it is always an inspirational place to visit. […]

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January is ‘divorce month’

Posted: January 20th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy I didn’t make this up. I was reading a professional journal and this was mentioned in an article on counseling couples. They didn’t explain why, so I did a little research of my own to see if they just put this in the article to get my attention or if there really is some truth to it.

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Assessing senior needs — Part 2

Posted: January 20th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters Symbolically, we each have a set of bricks with which we can build plans for what life as a senior will look like. The rub is that the quality and quantity of our individual brick inventories are not identical. Understanding where our individual strengths and weaknesses lie is absolutely essential to identifying what is possible and what is not.

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Real change

Posted: January 6th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel

Every year, around this time, clients ask me: How can I make this new year better? How can I make real changes in my life? How can I be less stressed out? Less lonely? Make more money?

I can’t promise answers to all your desires, but I’d like to use this column to suggest how you can make changes that really last, leaving maladaptive old habits behind.

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San Diego a destination for all

Posted: January 6th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright

If you are on Facebook, you may have noticed the “Year in Review” feature that users were able to access. The social media platform’s algorithms created a cute little video of your top photos of the year and had some facts about your Facebook usage over the year.

In 2016, I added 299 new friends, reacted to 64,607 posts (be it likes, hearts, wows, sads, or angries) and checked in to 906 places.

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Assessing senior needs

Posted: January 6th, 2017 | Columns, Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly

This is the first of a three-part series about assessing and addressing the needs of seniors.

Part one categorizes the most basic concerns of all adults and provides a list of the “needs categories,” which include income and assets, expenses, housing, health and healthcare, geographic location and support systems.

But first, what is the “aging crisis” we are hearing more about?

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A numb new year?

Posted: December 23rd, 2016 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

Life Beyond Therapy | Michael Kimmel Why do we numb ourselves? What is it we don’t want to feel? Is it so bad to “take the edge off”? Of course not, but how do you get there? Do you need something external (drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping) to make you feel better, or is there a way to get there on your own?

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All I want for Christmas is the perfect relationship

Posted: December 9th, 2016 | Columns, Featured, Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

By Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy As Christmas nears, many of my single clients want Santa to bring them the “perfect relationship” and leave it under the tree (nicely wrapped, of course). As a psychotherapist, I am happy to play cupid, but I insist on being a cupid based in reality. In this column, I’ll include questions you can ask yourself to increase the likelihood of finding that perfect woman/man under your Christmas tree.

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The donkey and the well

Posted: December 9th, 2016 | Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters Senior Matters is a column of reality, hope, history — and information and stories that are of curiosity, interest and/or assistance to readers of all ages — as perceived, seen and experienced by me, a youth who lived to become a senior.

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In defense of flaking

Posted: December 9th, 2016 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny I had an interesting conversation with a man at a bar recently. After sitting next to each other for about 10 months, we struck up a conversation and the topic of “flaking” came up. “Flakes,” for those who don’t know, are those who tend to say they’ll show up somewhere or do something, but then bail out, usually with no notice, reason, or phone call.

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Reverse mortgages: a retirement safety net

Posted: November 25th, 2016 | Columns, Featured, Senior Matters | No Comments

By William E. Kelly | Senior Matters Baby boomers, those born between 1946-1964, collided with the great recession of the late 2000s. Millions saw their retirement investments and savings greatly and suddenly diminished. For many, the bulk of those assets is the equity they have in their homes, for which values fell dramatically. In short, they became the victims of unforeseen circumstances just as they were retiring and the social safety nets designed to supplement responsible […]

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