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A day in my life at The Center

Posted: January 5th, 2018 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 1 Comment

By Ben Cartwright

Each year when we change calendars, many of us spend time reflecting on what we perceive as our faults and how we can improve upon them in the coming months. I’ve written in one of my January columns in the past about how I don’t make “New Year’s resolutions,” as they are, in my opinion, almost meant to be broken.

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The impacts of homelessness

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out with Benny

A couple of weeks ago, I was attacked late at night in Hillcrest by an unhoused individual. The man asked me for a dollar, I politely declined and then he attempted to take my bag from me. When I resisted, I was pushed to the ground, and I got pretty roughed up. While the cuts and bruises have pretty much healed, my thoughts on the situation continue to fester in my brain.

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Fabulous Hillcrest

Posted: August 4th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 1 Comment

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny The day after San Diego Pride, dozens of volunteers took to the streets of Hillcrest to assist the Hillcrest Town Council in its annual Post-Pride Neighborhood Cleanup. While several of the volunteers were physically Hillcrest residents, a great many of them did not live in the neighborhood. So why would so many people come out to lend a hand in a neighborhood they don’t live in?

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Twenty years of Pride

Posted: July 7th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny We are just a week away from the annual San Diego LGBT Pride festivities, which kick off on Friday, July 14, with the annual Spirit of Stonewall Rally and Pride of Hillcrest Block Party in Hillcrest. We’re lucky in San Diego because many years ago, organizers decided to move our annual celebration to mid-July, so that when all of the Pride celebrations in most major cities around the […]

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March with us for equality

Posted: June 9th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny This Sunday, we’re asking community members to come out and march at The Equality March: San Diego, in conjunction with the National LGBTQ March on Washington and many other marches across the country happening the same day. We’re marching to claim the rights that all people should enjoy. We’re marching to stand up for the protections of all people in our community. And we’re marching so that we […]

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Our bars, connecting and community

Posted: May 12th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | 2 Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny One month from today will mark one year since the horrific Pulse Nightclub massacre in Orlando, Florida. While the shooting was absolutely devastating, it proved once again that our community is great at rallying together in times of need. Within 24 hours of the shooting, gatherings popped up across the country for community members to be there for each other and help one another process what had just […]

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No always means no

Posted: April 28th, 2017 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny A few weeks ago, I was out at a bar on a Sunday afternoon with friends and we were discussing some thoughts about this planned column. In the middle of the conversation, a man came up to us to say hello and during that interaction, he noticed that one of my friends was wearing a snap button-down shirt. The person who approached us thought it would be “fun” […]

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In defense of flaking

Posted: December 9th, 2016 | Back Out With Benny, Columns, Featured | No Comments

By Ben Cartwright | Back Out With Benny I had an interesting conversation with a man at a bar recently. After sitting next to each other for about 10 months, we struck up a conversation and the topic of “flaking” came up. “Flakes,” for those who don’t know, are those who tend to say they’ll show up somewhere or do something, but then bail out, usually with no notice, reason, or phone call.

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